When you hear the word “attractive,” your first thought is probably about how someone looks. Some people care a lot about how someone looks, but for many others, that’s not the most important thing about them.
Over the years, I’ve helped a lot of couples and single men and women, so I’ve made a list of what makes a person appealing and attractive to others. You will definitely have at least one or two, but the goal is to have a lot of things that make you interesting as a possible partner.
If you don’t have some of these traits yet, you can make it a goal to do so. The more attractive qualities you have, the more likely it is that you will find a date who is attractive all around, not just because of how they look.
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1. Being a good listener.
One thing we all love to talk about the most is… ourselves! Who doesn’t like to hang out with someone who listens well? People who listen well are like gems because they make you feel important and cared about.
Just the fact that you are a good listener will make you very attractive to other people. You should be proud of that and know that at least one thing about you makes you a good date.
2. Always being willing to try new things.
As soon as you start dating someone, you find out that they have a family, friends, and coworkers. You also realize that this person has developed their own habits, interests, and hobbies over the course of their whole life.
Remember that it’s a big plus if you are flexible and willing to try new things. After all, a lot of men and women don’t want to date in the first place because they think it’s too much work or feels like a chore. If you’re willing to try new things, you actually enjoy the journey just as much as getting to your destination.
You should be proud of yourself if you are flexible and open. These are very attractive qualities in a person.
3. Being funny enough to make other people laugh out loud.
Put simply, there are many different kinds of funny. Still, some people just have a better sense of humor than others. Some men and women have funny, quick, or clever senses of humor that make you laugh out loud when they say certain things.
If your sense of humor makes people really laugh, you should know that you have one of the most attractive traits a man or woman could have.
4. Giving and receiving warm, thoughtful touch.
First of all, I’m not necessarily talking about sexual touch. I’m talking about how you touch someone when you’re walking down the street, having dinner with them, or sitting on the couch with them to watch a movie.
My friend loves it when her husband rubs his fingernails slowly up and down her forearm with gentle pressure. Many people like that kind of affection and the fact that you’re willing to make someone feel good and touch them in a non-sexual way. Some people don’t like being touched very often, but most do.
If you’re a very affectionate person, you should wear this badge with pride and know that many men or women will want to keep dating you because you make them feel good and cared for emotionally and physically.
5. Being self-aware and able to think about yourself.
I had to save the best for last, just like the singer Vanessa Williams. I’ve found that after many years together, this is the trait that both men and women value the most in their partner.
Summary
At first, you might be attracted to someone because of how they look, how successful they are at work, or how charming they are. But those aren’t the things that keep a couple together for years. Long-term couples have to deal with resentments and problems, but it helps if the person you’re with can take responsibility for their problems or things they’ve done that have hurt you.
